I don't have a doctor. Not yet.
I have every intention of finding someone to deliver my little it-ling slash tiny he/she, but I haven't found that person yet.
Part of it is a little side of rebellion that I can't have my old ob/gyn deliver the baby.
Part of it is that I don't want to take the time to find a doctor I love all over again.
And another part of it is that I can't decide if I want a midwife or a doctor.
When I'm talking midwife, I'm not talking an at home birth. I enjoy the modern conveniences of a hospital and epidural way too much. Although, I did tell my father in law that I was planning on birthing this child at home. I told him that I wanted him to hold the left leg while my father held the right, with Nate ready and waiting to catch the baby in the middle. And then my kids would be close by so we could yell to them,
I have every intention of finding someone to deliver my little it-ling slash tiny he/she, but I haven't found that person yet.
Part of it is a little side of rebellion that I can't have my old ob/gyn deliver the baby.
Part of it is that I don't want to take the time to find a doctor I love all over again.
And another part of it is that I can't decide if I want a midwife or a doctor.
When I'm talking midwife, I'm not talking an at home birth. I enjoy the modern conveniences of a hospital and epidural way too much. Although, I did tell my father in law that I was planning on birthing this child at home. I told him that I wanted him to hold the left leg while my father held the right, with Nate ready and waiting to catch the baby in the middle. And then my kids would be close by so we could yell to them,
"Abrie, Kaleb, Macie! Come quick, the baby is crowning! "
and the rest of my family would be there- standing around me in a large circle singing Kumbaya...
I could sense that Nate's Dad was feeling a little bit awkward after I told him my birthing plan, so then I offered that he could switch Nate with the right leg duty and he could catch the baby instead. I'm still waiting to hear what he'd like to do. I'm sure he'll probably tell me after he can make eye contact with me again.
So back to midwife vs doctor...
I could sense that Nate's Dad was feeling a little bit awkward after I told him my birthing plan, so then I offered that he could switch Nate with the right leg duty and he could catch the baby instead. I'm still waiting to hear what he'd like to do. I'm sure he'll probably tell me after he can make eye contact with me again.
So back to midwife vs doctor...
What's your opinion? What are the pros and the cons? Have any great ob-gyn/midwife's in the Provo area that you love?
Or would you just stick with my original at home birthing plan?
(My Father in law is praying you say no. No worries Scott, I think you're safe.)
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17 comments:
I always loved Dr. Thorpe of Provo OB/GYN. He is great looking :-) well good on the eyes and his wife works on L&D at utah valley. I always enjoyed the whole practice, but Dr. thorpe was awesome!
I was born at home and so were my two little brothers. My mom used a midwife, but that was many moons ago. The midwife is probably dead by now. Good luck with your search for the right person to fit the bill!
I say either way, what does it matter?! YOU ARE IN A HOSPITAL! Where they wash your gross sheets, sucks your baby's nose out, give you undies (do they do that there??) and there are no kids waking you at 6:30 for breakfast.
Ahhhhh, the hospital - I almost would have baby #6 just for the stay!
Good luck deciding!
Provo OB/GYN delivered my bundle of joy and I loved them all. Dr. Thorpe was on call the day I was induced and he delivered me however, they were all great. He's from Springville and so was my delivery nurse and I still pray I don't see them at Reams. {awkward} They are by far the busiest OB/GYN that deliver at Utah Valley {according to my nurse}, the night I delivered, Dr. Thorpe had delivered 6 that day and had a few more in labor. So if you'd like a hopping practice, pick that one. Otherwise, I can give you other recommendations in the area.
I have no clue about a midwife....does it cost less?
Congratulations!! That is really exciting news. The thought of all your fathers holding your left and right leg during the birthing process makes me feel awkward. He he.
I don't really know much about midwives. I wouldn't know what to tell you.
I say it does not matter as long as you are in the hospital where they take care of you and your kids are not any where to be found.
I think you should ask your father in law what song he thinks the family should sing in the birthing circle, let him know his opinion means alot to you, that will bring a smile to his face for sure.
I am a doctor girl myself! Sorry I don't have any recommendations. However, I think my sister in law used a midwife when she delivered in Provo and really enjoyed it--but she also delievers her babies naturally (yikes!)
This is a long one! I have always wanted to deliver at home. My sister does and I have to say it was such a special thing. Everyone who has delivered at home by choice has said they wouldn't go back to hospital births. If I felt better about being so far away from a hospital I would do it or of course if I lived closer to a hospital where I thought they knew what they were doing I would think more seriously about it. Seriously though it is whatever you FEEL is best. Each labor and child is so different as I am sure you know. I had all mine in a hospital with an OB and this latest one I 'felt' I should deliver natural. My first thought was "Oh my Scary, I can't do that! and I don't think I even really want to do that. Yikes!" because pain and I don't go well together AT ALL and I was begging for the epidural with my first, but I felt so much better about it that I followed that feeling, did it and amazed myself (I did have a doula to assist, the hospital nurse, and my manly man hubby which I wouldn't go w/o). Not that you have to deliver naturally, but just do what feels best after considering all your options (you do have to really study all sides out) even ones you hadn't considered. I called strangers who had gone natural and asked them loads of questions and they all are SO willing to share and all of them said they were so glad they did it. Most everyone that hadn't gone natural or who had but didn't have extra help thought I was insane to even think about it, but I don't have one regret - well except I should have relaxed a bit more while pushing. I like my OB although he sometimes seem almost too busy, but Midwives work under OBs anyway and I find comfort in that just in case anything serious happens so I am considering a midwife this next time. Good Luck.
I love love love my doctor, Dr. Judd. He is right by Utah Valley hospital and the bonus is I am up the road so I can watch your kiddos while you go to the doc. 2 birds with one stone I like to say. Okay, so I've never said that, but whatever
I say it really comes down to the pain :) do you want short term pain, or long term pain? 1st two born in hospital with epidural, so I didn't have any labor pain, but my recovery pain was much worse than when I did midwife/natural/homebirth. I had labor pain for about an hour, but after that, there was NO recovery pain. I've now realized how you hear stories about pioneer woman who delivered baby's on the trail in a covered wagon, or in the fields :)
Either way, its the most amazing and wonderful experiences, bringing a new life into the world!! I'm so excited for you guys!!
I also love Provo OBGYN, I had Reece deliver my second child and loved him. I also like Dr. Thorpe, he is in the Bishopric with my in laws in Springville. They are very Busy and you see any one of I think 6 doctors, they are all great except I really dislike Gammett, he discharged me twice and he just didn't have very good bedside manner especially when one of my babes was in the NICU.
I'm hurt that I wasn't included in the AT HOME BIRTH crowd. I could be there with chocolate for you and a fruit snack binky for the new little "it". (You do realize it's a parasite don't you?)
les, you forgot a bottle filled with dr. pepper.
PS- Thanks all for your input. I do SO appreciate it!
If you are planning to do a hospital birth with epidural I would probably use a Dr. The benefit to a midwife is their natural approach to help you with pain tolerance and birthing. If you don't need to rely on that, I would go for the one with a medical degree. I have done both unmedicated and epidural, and I honestly think they are COMPLETELY different experiences.
Ginnie - I've had both. One DR. with Hunter from Provo OB/GYN who I WOULD NOT recommend. He was nice enough to explain to Brent and I then when he stitched me up he made sure to put in one extra stitch to make me nice and tight again. Oh yeay, that worked really great, if Brent wanted to continue being celibate for another few months. For Lilly back in Philly-land I had a midwife, whose group worked with the OB/GYN's many of the girls went to. The delivering midwife was awesome and "helped" encouraging need for stitches. They were also game for my birth plan, which was dilating to a 4 and then getting an epidural. Then cutting if necessary. Next with Joshy the midwives had moved from that practice so I again delivered with an OB/GYN. Again, great delivery, great epidural and ...dum du da dum...NO RECOVERY PAIN. At first I thought something was wrong. Then I figured the magic from the last "extra" stitch from the 1st doctor could only last so long. My body was finally good at birthing. Congrats and good luck.
Congratulations! and I hope I'm not to late to add my two cents! You don't know me personally but I have had 8 children. My first 3 I had OB/GYN's and they were fine delivery's. However, with my first delivery I had a labor and delivery nurse that had been a midwife in Australial! She was brilliant! My daughter's head was looking up rather than having her chin tucked and my nurse/midwife knew what was going on with my back labor and a trick to fix her head. I did exactly as she said and it worked! That was in 1986 in CA. Then we moved to PA. When I was expecting my 4th I started seeing midwives at a birthing center that was located across the street from the hospital. When I was 8 mo. we moved to WI. I looked up midwives who deliver in the hospital and have back up doctors (all for my peace of mind). Midwives are FANTASTIC! I had my last 5 babies with them and you know what we say about the Church being true? Well, the midwives are also TRUE!!! Hahaha....But really, I had to have episiotomies when the doctors delivered and that was with my 3 smallest babies which really were pretty big babies! Uhmmm...their wieghts were 8 1/2 lbs to 9 1/2. With the midwives I was able to labor in the tub with jets and then lay kind of on my side where the baby could wind its way out instead of having to go against gravity. (does that make any sense?) Anyway, no EPISIOTOMIES ever again. They know the tricks. Oh yeah, the next 4 babies after my first three all weighed 10 1/2 lbs. I had a few tiny tears and got either 1 or two stitches or none. They were just flesh fissures. The episiotomies cut right through the muscle. So my recovery was much better with the midwives. They also check you themselves when you get to the hospital and spend a lot of time with you while you are in labor. The office visits during the pregnancy are also awesome! With my doctors I could barely catch the doctor on the way out with any questions and with CNM's (certified nurse midwife)it was as though I was their only patient that day! BTW, I probably would not have 8 children if I would have ever had morning sickness. You're a trooper!
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